"When people show you who they are believe them the first time"
Maya Angelou

End The Insecurity! Find The Love And Companionship You Desire And Deserve

Are you at a point in your life where you realize you have wasted a lot of time or even years in toxic relationships? Have you found yourself repeating the same old unhealthy relationship patterns and want to figure out why and how to end this pattern so you find the love you want? Do you feel as if you are waking up from a deep slumber and wondering “how did I get here?” Do you feel it is time for a change?

You may be in a co-dependent relationship.

Signs You Might Be in A Co-dependent Relationship

Your relationship feels like a ride on a wild emotional rollercoaster of intense love & longings, frustration, anxiety, anger, lashing out, and lack of fulfillment. You obsessively think about your partner wondering over and over, “why can’t they get it”. Being gaslit has left you feeling tired, exhausted, and full of self-doubt. You have endured suffering, you have compromised, you know there are problems in the relationship. To fix the problems you keep “changing” yourself hoping that this will resolve the problems. But the problems persist as does your changing yourself.

A Healthy And Loving Relationship

We are wired to connect. Many, if not all people, desire to be in a healthy and loving, romantic relationship.
A healthy and loving relationship is very fulfilling. An unhealthy relationship is a source of :

Often people are thrown into the world of relationships / dating without the tools they need to navigate romantic relationships.A lot of parents shy away from discussing dating with their children and assume that this is being taught in schools which often is not the case. For most people this happens in their teenage years.

When things don’t work, you believe you are to blame. So, you seek to fix yourself. Your partner accuses you of doing things you are not doing. You reassure them, but then something else pops up, and so the cycle continues. Perhaps you believe that your partner is helpless in some ways and that they need you and your help. You have sacrificed yourself until there is no more to give. You feel drained and depleted and your self-esteem has hit an all-time low. You avoid saying things to keep from sparking off an argument with your partner. You believe your will never or that it will be near impossible to find someone else. Your relationship is literary driving you crazy.




I help people who have struggled or are struggling with toxic or co-dependent relationships find the love they deserve.

Co-dependency is not a state of being. It is NOT who you are. It is a SERIOUSLY problematic relational behavioral pattern, which over time, severely corrodes your self-esteem and your sense of self. Yes, you lose yourself.  

Hormonal Changes

Hormonal changes at puberty bring on feelings of attractions to romantic partners. Add peer pressure, desire to have a sense of belonging (my friend is dating so I should too) and you have a very complicated picture. It is easy to assume that one knows how to find the right partner for themselves and how to handle romantic relationships only to confront significant difficulties.


A co-dependent relationship slowly and painfully deprives you of your self-esteem oxygen leading to a slow and painful death of the self

The lack of stability in your sense of self and the corrosion of your self-esteem are major reasons you feel stuck. You know it is unhealthy but you stay on and on and endure abuse and suffering as if glued to the relationship.

Good news is, because it is not who you are, you can break free. That’s right, you can get unstuck! You can rebuild yourself and get the love you want.

If you have been or are in a co-dependent relationship you know firsthand how damaging it is. If you are feeling stuck and would like to get unstuck, contact me. When you work with me:

  • You will understand how your fear of abandonment / rejection colludes to keep you drawn to people who can never give you the love and closeness you desire.
  • You will learn how the initial sweetness of your narcissistic partner made you stay, long after that façade evaporated and their true self emerged.
  • You will be able to spot a narcissist and avoid them.
  • You will learn how to break free from co-dependency and find love in a fulfilling relationship
  • You will reclaim your power by mastering your emotions.
  • You will create new behaviors which will transform your life. You will go from insecure to secure.