What Is a “Toxic Relationship”?

Did you know that most people who are or have been in a toxic relationship do not realize it?

If you answer yes to any of the following questions, you may be, or may have been, in a toxic or unhealthy relationship. I can help you make changes that can enable you find a healthy and loving relationship.

• In your current romantic relationship, do you feel stressed out and unable to figure out what to do?

  
  

• Do you feel trapped and stuck in a problematic relationship in which you are not happy?

  
  

• Do you keep hoping/wishing your partner will change — but your partner doesn’t?

  
  

• Do you find yourself obsessing (over-thinking) about why your partner won’t change, or how to prove that you are not who your partner thinks you are?

  
  

• Do you keep getting into problematic relationships, and want to know how to end this pattern?

  
  

• Does your partner tell you you are crazy, that you need to be fixed/evaluated/tested?

  
  

• After you have been tested/evaluated, and found to be okay, does your partner still tells insist you have an undiagnosed mental health condition?

  
  

• Do you feel so stressed that you have forgotten what “normal” feels like?

  
  

• Do you feel anxious, depressed, or exhausted due to your relationship?

  
  

• Do you think about getting out of the relationship but fear that you will never find another one?

  
  

• Does your partner attack you verbally or even physically when you express disagreement?

  
  

• Does your partner tend to have angry verbal explosions?

  
  

• Does your partner express anger in ways that are belittling, demeaning, devaluing, accusatory, or blaming?

  
  

• When your partner gets angry with you, do you try to keep the peace by silencing yourself?

  
  

• When your partner gets angry with you, does he or she withdraw love and attention, giving you the “silent treatment”?

  
  

• Do you find yourself watching what you say and do so as not to trigger the “silent treatment”?

  
  

• When your partner withdraws love and attention or is moody, do you feel obligated to improve your partner’s mood, to make things better?

  
  

• Do you blame yourself for your partner’s anger?

  
  

• Do you hide problems in your relationships from family and friends?

  
  

• Do you put off your own life goals because your partner is not ready?

  
  

• Do you give and give some more until you feel drained and exhausted, yet your partner is okay with not helping?

  
  

• Do you find yourself buying into the excuses your partner gives for not helping, such as with finances or chores?

Contact me for help breaking out of the cycle of toxic relationships and moving toward healthy, fulfilling partnerships.

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